Games People Play is a book I enjoyed reading whilst I was studying. Berne explores transactional analysis by way of the parent, adult and child. I on the other hand decided to take a slightly broader look at who my characters chose as partners, their parent, child or equal.
Lets start with Milla, she thinks she wants a parent to look after her and so looks for men with power unfortunately it soon becomes clear that she will always be the victim in this situation. Then along comes Tabatha, she doesn’t control Milla, she lays back and enjoys Milla’s courage. Tabatha is strong enough to be her equal and so neither has to fall into the victim persona.
Stacey is the mum in all aspects of her life and craves to be the child, the one who is looked after. She doesn’t want to give her power up completely and so this relationship can only ever be casual, this way she is still in control of her life and others.
Sharon has succumb to her child fantasies with Lenny, as he worships her and keeps her captive. Her fun in the cellar has fueled her power and now she wants to explore the world and needs a more experienced ‘Daddy’ to lead her, Harry gladly accepts her hand.
Tabatha wants to play the adult so badly she is striving for this, to be the best she can be and takes every opportunity. When she realises that Rick wants a parent she looks elsewhere, she doesn’t want that responsibility because she knows it will weigh her down.
So what role is Harry playing? The parent to them all, he loves the power and for a while he relies on his equal at home, his wife Lin but what happens when he has no equal? When Lin decides it is her time to grow and not be held back by her ‘child’ Harry’s world starts to fall apart, no one has his back any more and he starts to slowly unravel. Will Sharon be able to take on the role, is she strong enough? Or will Harry finally take control of his life, his emotions and himself.
What game are you playing? Is it your best?