I have to admit that I thought Mums who went back to work within 3 months of their children being born were Selfish. I’m talking about Mums that didn’t need to go back to work for cash reasons.
My perspective has changed so much! Now I know what it is to be passionate about your work and have true purpose for yourself. Life is about choices and realising that you are in charge of them and can make anything happen! You do not have to follow your family’s footprints or your friends ideals.
I loved my time with my babies, for the first seven or eight years of their life I was consumed by them. Sometimes life took over and when stresses were high I have to admit I had limited outlets but that is no fault but my own. We all choose the path we follow.
Having spent seven years in the city working and playing hard then having chosen to be a stay at home Mum not surprisingly my income capabilities changed dramatically. I still worked part-time, book keeping and Chairing a Playgroup kept me busy. I also studied Interior Design and Feng Shui, ultimately I had ‘me time’ but it wasn’t a passion and my purpose was my love; being Mum.
When I work away from home now I go with such intent that I am focused on my rewards, my children are always there with me in my heart but I have a purpose that is so different to the caring, loving Mum. I come home and fall in love with my children all over again and it just makes our connection stronger. I can see them from a new perspective now one that wants them to grow in all of the directions that I have and many, many more.
What has been an invaluable learning from the changes in my life is that what works for one family doesn’t necessarily work for another but that doesn’t make it wrong. We all have our own way of making a cup of tea, when you can sit back and appreciate the taste of difference you know you are accepting all the colours of life.
I love my work and I love my children, maybe women can have it all!
Yes, perhaps there is an advantage to move ones focus away from a committed task, when revisited a new perspective is realised or reminder of why we got pleasure from it before, what’s that they say “a change is as good as a rest”. I believe it’s all about quality time, the amount spent is relative to the outcome.
The understanding of knowing when the input is sufficient to allow the giver and receiver to benefit from rest or a distraction. It can be a fine balance that might benifit one, both or neither dependant on the quality of the giver and how receptive the receiver is to the input.
Feedback is the key to understanding.